I spent a couple of hours in a tattoo parlour yesterday, while two ‘high voltage’ Aussie girlfriends had matching lotus flowers inked on their wrists.
Anyway, while I waited, I pondered the Four Agreements poster up on the wall. I have read the book, and gotten bogged down by God-talk, waffling, clichés, and needless repetition of simple advice. But when the Agreements are bulleted, without all the extraneous fluff, I find them powerful, and a good reminder that many of my unconscious beliefs are self-limiting, if not self-destructive.
The first two Agreements, especially, are speaking loudly to me right now.
#1: BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
I found myself saying a lot less today as I pondered this agreement. And being silent is OK, if all you were going to spout was a bit ‘off’. It really is :-)
#2: DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Whoa. This is a biggie. This is the one I really need to get inside right now. Because I am the master of making up stories about what someone else’s actions/words/absences do/do not mean. This is a lesson I need to be reminded of over and over again. I know it, I preach it, but I still find myself trying to create explanations. Which mostly point to how I am unworthy.
So yeah. Thank you, Kat Von D, and the friends who led me there. Who knew I would get a spiritual lesson in a tattoo parlour?
Funny how things work out, right?