you never know when you’re making an impact

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“I have to thank you from the bottom of my heart,” L told me this afternoon, “for not letting me gossip on those drives to school. It was very frustrating at the time, but now I understand.”

I’d forgotten all about that. Years ago, in response to her constant carping about the other kids, I banned trash-talking in my car. If she wanted to tell about someone who was absent, I only wanted to hear positive things.

We had a lot of silent drives.

She continued, “Now I overhear people, like in restaurants, complaining about others, and it just sounds awful. I don’t ever want to be like that.”

And I thought: wow.
She learned something.
It made a difference.
She’s a better person because of it.

I had no idea at the time that I was creating a lasting change. Frankly, I made the rule for my own benefit, not hers.

I used to say “You never know when you’re making a memory.” It’s also true that we never know when something we say or do will have a real impact, for good or ill.

But I plan to remember this, and hope that my influence always be positive.

You know what?
Sometimes parenting has its rewards.

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8 Comments

  1. I am feeling the love.

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  2. I will definitely remember that one for Erika… And I guess for myself when I find myself starting to complain about someone… x x x

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  3. What a gorgeous photo! It’s amazing how words (and actions) can resonate over a long period.

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  4. Louise

     /  May 30, 2012

    Extra beautiful now I know both the faces.

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