Me + guy + dog are going camping this weekend! We’re off to Death Valley, with loose plans to check out some of the many ghost towns in the vicinity. And cook delicious meals over open fires. And sing a lot of songs.
I can’t wait.
[My close friends (I'm looking at you, Lola & sister) will recognize my scrappy picnic blanket, now getting pretty bedraggled, but still much-loved.]
Posted by suchwildlove on April 24, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/24/preparing/
Her nickname was Lolli, and she was a juicy sweet woman who dressed inappropriately for this community college language class. She was maybe in her early 30s, and I learned one day that her third marriage was ending.
“Well,” I primly assumed, “I guess you won’t be going there again.”
She looked at me guilelessly, her freckled face open. “Why not?” she asked. “If there’s love, why not? Why would I close myself off to love?”
I don’t think that marrying everyone you love is a wise idea. But the thing I remember the most: she wasn’t mortally wounded. She wasn’t building walls against future intimacy and commitment. She still believed that love was a good thing, even if it only lasted a season or three.
She wasn’t scared.
Lolli, I haven’t thought about you for years, but tonight I raise a glass to you, and the example you give me. I won’t show as much cleavage or belly as you loved to, but in other ways, I’m lowering my defenses.
We are all flawed, and love is a good thing. Mazel tov, my friend.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 22, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/22/2023/
With every plant and pot I bring, I feel more invested. Not financially. Emotionally. I’m planting a garden again. It feels so, so good.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 21, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/21/investing/
We dressed up in glad rags and went to a friend’s wedding. He joked that he wanted me to catch the bouquet, but the bride didn’t have one. But it sure was lovely to see him in the suit I’d adjusted.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 21, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/21/dressing-up/
They started as strangers. After 2 hours, they were friends. It was fun to watch.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 14, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/14/meeting/
The Boy came over for dinner. It’s been months — maybe a year? — since we have hung out, just the two of us. What an awesome human he is. I am so happy to know, and feed, him.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 9, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/09/appreciating/
We broke the rules, jumped the fence, and went off track to have our picnic perched at the top of a sheer cliff. We had an eagle’s-eye view of the surfers and seals. It was a perfect birthday.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 7, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/07/defying/
My gift to myself was a day of domestic solitude. In the evening, he plucked the guitar while I Skyped with family, then surprised me with a restaurant dinner. I feel loved.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 6, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/06/softening/
We finally got together tonight. She gave me spices for my birthday: ras el hanout, madras curry, chinese five spice. She fed my body with salad and my heart with anecdotes. Despite our many differences, we are soul sisters.
Posted by suchwildlove on April 5, 2013
http://suchwildlove.com/2013/04/05/reconnecting/
Do you remember when, presented with a smooth grassy slope, all you could do was roll down it?
Do you?
I do.
Posted by suchwildlove on December 11, 2012
http://suchwildlove.com/2012/12/11/rollin-rollin-rollin/
